5 Ways Moms Can Fight Blah Days

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Do you ever have one of those days where you feel zero energy. Days when mentally you feel like your emotions have flatlined? For me, going to work at the office usually helped that blah feeling.  However, now that I’m working at home with two little humans who I don’t have to fake it for,  its been much harder to get out of my mental funk. Thankfully, I have 5 ways  that Moms can fight blah days. This list could definitely be longer, but sometimes my attention span gets in the way of my writing.

5 Ways Moms (or anyone!) Can Fight Blah Days

Get showered and dressed.

If you know its going to be one of those days, don’t marinate in it! It’s much harder to pull yourself out of a funk when it’s 1pm and you’ve accomplished absolutely zero while lounging in your pjs. On these days, at the very least, take a shower and put some cute clothes on.

Play uplift music or listen to a podcast. 

I can’t say that this always does the trick, but it helps in conjunction with other things. My music choices that get me moving range from Hillsong to Britney to Little Wayne. Lately, I’ve been listening to podcasts that are specifically geared towards women, entrepreneurs and overall personal development. This article from Girlfriendology has a great list of podcasts for women.

Play with the kids or do some silly dances. 

There are times when playing with the kiddos seems like a tiring and daunting effort. Acting silly with them or playing their favorite game, often times lifts me out of my mental slump. My daughter who is 8, knows when I’m in one of my moods and bless her heart, she is the sweetest little thing when she tries to lift my spirits.

Watch YouTube – yes, you read that right. 

Getting someTHING accomplished is a start to a better mood.  Somedays I’ll settle for the dishes and cleaning the floors. Call me crazy but watching other people clean or organize their home really works. YouTube is filled with fun organizing and cleaning motivational videos. Based on the hundreds of thousand of views, there are obviously many of us who enjoy watching these videos.

Notice I said YouTube only. Jumping on Facebook or Instagram and seeing the perfect pictures and suspecting, my life is perfect posts… is the last thing you should do.

Shop, shop or shopping cart.

I’m not saying to self-medicate  by spending hundreds of dollars every time you’re feeling depressed. But there is something to be said about an impromptu shopping trip with a friend. Not only does it get you out of the house but it occupies your mind. On days when I don’t want to deal with strollers and tantrums, I’ll settle for online shopping trips. I’m known to add stuff to the shopping cart and walking away. It’s almost like shopping, just without the monetary commitment.

There it is – 5 ways you can fight blah days. As I’m finishing this post up I realized that I missed one very important thing – sunshine! If all out fails, take a walk outside for 10 minutes.

Busy Moms want to know – What am I missing that has worked for you?

 

 

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June 26, 2017
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My First Month as Stay-at-Home Mom

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My first Month as a stay at home mom

Being a stay at home parent was something I never considered. That was up until last year. In my 20’s I saw nothing exciting nor fulfilling in the Stay At Home Mom role. I was never the one jumping in line to “hold the baby” and even though my daughter was the love my life, there was no way I was trading in my heels for an all day affair of baby talk and diapers.  I had a successful marketing career right when the digital and social world was taking off.

Then at 31 I was diagnosed with breast cancer. From that point it was all about treatments, surgery and simply surviving.   The emotional dust from everything started to settle three years after my cancer treatments and having my little miracle man, I started to feel a mis-alignment with what I was doing and what was bringing me true joy.

Right around the same time, the company I was working for started going through some changes. These changes started seeping into my department towards the end of last year and unless you’re completely disconnected from your own reality, you pretty much know what’s going on. You just don’t know exactly when. My position was one of those, “not part of the re-alignment” and in March, this mama was home with her babies (16 months and 8 yrs).

While the title of this post says  Stay-at-Home, it should be more like Work-At-Home. Thankfully, I started doing some freelance work last year so when they let me go, I immediately started working on creating my own company. I just don’t know how much work was actually done during my first month at home to warrant the work-at-home title.

 

Week 1 of my first month as a stay at home Mom went something like:

 

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This was also because it was Spring break and we went on a short trip to visit some friends. We returned late on Sunday which normally would never happen because of work the next day.  It was great coming home and not having to stress about preparing for the week ahead. Lunches? Nah, I’ll do those in the morning.

Positives this week: Everything

Negatives: Nada.

Week 2:

Still in the honeymoon phase, I was eagerly happy to be fulfilling all the house duties that I would otherwise be neglecting had I was working my 8-5.  I’m not sure where the week went, but I only managed to do half of what I set out to do! Whatever – it’s early in my new role and I was still in the honeymoon phase, so I think I said something like, it’s my first week, I’ll find my groove. 

The hardest decision this week was figuring out what to make for dinner. I also realized that I hadn’t put on a pair jeans in almost two weeks.

Positives this week:

Waking up at 6am for ME time, meditation, coffee and email check

I spent time with my little man and I did school drop-offs and pick-ups. Some of you reading this probably loaf these duties but I’m new here, remember!?

The fact that I wasn’t coming home after 5pm meant that the evenings were more enjoyable and my kitchen actually looked presentable the next morning.

Negatives:

My morning meditations ended here.

I was wearing workout gear almost everyday and while it appeared I was headed or coming back from the gym, I wasn’t. Nope. Not even once.

Week 3:

I’m still kickin’ it with my little homie and chillin’ in my workout leggings.

I soon realized that now I have a good reason for going to Starbucks everyday – Mommy’s gotta work! Dinner time and evenings were a piece of cake.

Positives: EVERYTHING! THIS IS AMAZING!

Negatives: I missed a submission deadline for a site I contribute to.  I can’t recall why. Another week passed without me me practicing my morning meditations.

Week 4:

Husband says, you need to come up with some sort of schedule. Me – I am! Sounding totally appalled and almost offended. This is about the time when I find myself on YouTube watching other Mom’s who stay at home and work. I see your judgy face. Some of those videos get hundred-thousand views, so I’m not alone.

In my YouTube ventures I find that many times their little one naps for 2 hours. I haven’t seen a 2-hour nap from my wild 19-month old the entire time I’ve been home!

I’m hearing it can take me as much as 4-6 months to find my schedule. Yes,  I Googled that too.

Positive:  I’m alive and everyone is happy that I’m home more. However, this is starting to translate to: Mommy can do it all.

I’m making progress on my business and establishing a client base.

Negatives:

Little man now goes to Grandma’s 2 days a week so Mommy can actually get some work done. Is this a negative? I’m not so sure right now.

I’m on YouTube way too much.

My early 6am rise is starting to look more like 6:45am or 7am.

This month was everything and nothing that I had expected.

I quickly came to realize that staying at home with kids is much harder than any 8-5. At the same time, I realize that I never (ever) want to go back to the corporate world. It will take some major mojo, self-development and hustle for me to be able to stay home, but the lessons, discipline and business knowledge that I have acquired thus far are invaluable.

The second month gets even more interesting.  I had my first Mommy breakdown, started second guessing my decisions and my self-assurance was tanking. Stay tuned.

First month as a stay home Mom

June 14, 2017
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Dear Bandit – A Letter for You in Heaven

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Dear Bandit,

Hey big boy, it’s your mama.

The night is setting in and you’re not here. This morning I caught myself  scooping up 2 servings of food  As much as Mia would have liked that extra serving, I know she would rather be eating breakfast with you. I wonder what you’re doing right now? How is doggy heaven? I’m sure you are running with no pain and eating endless amounts of cheese. 

Having to say goodbye  to you yesterday was harder than we could have ever imagined. You don’t know this, but I’ve only seen your Dad really cry – twice. You may think it was on our wedding day or the day the kids were born. However neither of those are it. One of the times was yesterday.  The day we had to say goodbye to you. 

Years ago your Dad and I  talked about what we would do when “that” day came. He said there was no way he could be there while you sleep into your  heavenly home. He didn’t want to see it happen. Then one day at work, a friend and I were talking about our fur babies and somehow the subject came up. I told her how he felt unsure about being there during those last moments.  The next day she gave me a poem that I shared with him. It was from a dogs perspective regarding his Last Battle. One of the lines said: 

“….Only, stay with me till the end
And hold me firm and speak to me
Until my eyes no longer see.”

 

 

Yesterday, we honored you and our responsibilities to you. Nothing would have prevented us from being there with you. We held you, kissed you and whispered in your ear. I’m not sure if you remember your head on Daddy’s lap. Your paw in my hand. And my face nestled over yours.

Bandit, you gave us so much in the last 14 years. And while you could have gone to another home, you came into our home. We were a couple of barely 20-something kids who just bought a new home and wanted a fur baby. You grew up with us and even though our hearts are broken, we will honor you.  We promise to love again and take in another dog with either no hope or home. I’m not sure they will lick Mia’s ears like you did, but they can have  breakfast together.

Goodnight Muffin. WE LOVE YOU.

 

 

 

The Last Battle

If it should be that I grow frail and weak
And pain should keep me from my sleep,
Then will you do what must be done,
For this — the last battle — can’t be won.
You will be sad I understand,
But don’t let grief then stay your hand,
For on this day, more than the rest,
Your love and friendship must stand the test.

We have had so many happy years,
You wouldn’t want me to suffer so.
When the time comes, please, let me go.
Take me to where to my needs they’ll tend,
Only, stay with me till the end
And hold me firm and speak to me
Until my eyes no longer see.

I know in time you will agree
It is a kindness you do to me.
Although my tail its last has waved,
From pain and suffering I have been saved.
Don’t grieve that it must be you
Who has to decide this thing to do;
We’ve been so close — we two — these years,
Don’t let your heart hold any tears.

    – author unknown

 

 

 

 

 

May 17, 2017
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Last Minute Mother’s Day Gift Ideas from Kids and Adults

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Just because Mother’s Day is a week away doesn’t mean you still can’t give her something great for Mother’s Day. I’m a total last-minute shopper so these unique and last minute Mother’s Day gift ideas are somewhat self-serving.

 

 

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  1. The Boss Cup & tons of other cute options from Amazon that you’ll get in time. It’s an entire collection that fits all types of Moms.
  2. Wrap bracelet for the boho Moms from Boho Betty. Get 20% with special code: REBELSOULMOM.
  3. Flowers (and reasonable price from Amazon) – Prime and One Day Available!
  4. Wall Art
  5. Mom Chalkboard Wall Art  – This is currently on sale as of 5/7/17 & has one-day shipping!
  6. BOHO Betty Earrings – For the minimalist
  7. Dogeared Going Places Disc Chain Necklace – There are other options with different theme’s, such as “One in a Million”, (also Prime)!
  8. Edgy Wrap Bracelet –  For the modern and edgy Mama.
  9. Spa Gift Sets – There are affordable options that start at $20 and qualifies for Prime and One-Day Prime!

Hope this helps at least spark some last minute ideas. Yes, these are affiliate links to items that I think make great gifts for  all the amazing Moms out there. This has the official Rebel Soul Mom approval. Happy Shopping!

May 8, 2017
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35 Lessons I’ve Learned in 35 Years

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Last week I turned 35. Thirty-five. That means I will now be checking the 35-40 box. With that new check mark comes many experiences and lessons. I decided to write about these lessons so I can look back a few years from now and either laugh or roll my eyes.

For now, these are my 35 lessons I’ve learned in 35 years.

  1. The misfits, troublemakers, square pegs, weirdos and creative kids can change the world. I’ve been called “weird” many times growing up and even into my adult years. My husband still calls me weird from time to time. It’s the best compliment he can give me.
  2. Family is always first. I spent too much time in my teens arguing with my parents. Then in my 20’s I was consumed in my relationship, college antics and partying. If you’re parents are still alive – spend time with them. Call them often and don’t hold grudges.
  3. Self-love and acceptance does get stronger as we get older.
  4. Don’t just take the pictures, get in front of the camera. Mom’s don’t have many pictures of themselves with their kids. I was trying to find a picture of myself with the kids and I had to go back almost a year! Pretty sad considering how many pictures I take.
  5. Get in the pool, swim in the ocean and play, play, play. While you are busy trying to cover up, your kids are having fun. They won’t remember your stretch marks or jiggly arms. Stop hiding and go make some memories!
  6. Not everyone who is in an executive position is a leader. The words vice-president, senior vice-president or even manager do not make someone a leader.
  7. Qualities of a good leader – visionary, listens, motivates, speaks with conviction and has contagious energy.
  8. If it doesn’t scare you or make you uncomfortable, then it’s too easy. Pick the harder class. Find another job if you’re not being challenged. Be the first to present.
  9. The world is a much cooler and happier place when you view it through the eyes of a child.
  10. Your parents are always right. This once annoying quote proves itself to be true more times than you care to ever admit.
  11. Confidence and kindness is always sexier.
  12. Your health isn’t always in your control. Control what you can – don’t smoke, limit drinking, exercise and limit stress. I can’t tell you how many health conscious women I’ve meet that got a devastating diagnosis. Do what you can and leave the rest to God.
  13. Guys are awful at mind-reading. If you want something, tell them. PS. I still haven’t mastered this at 35.
  14. When in doubt, always wear black.
  15. The biggest learning opportunities come from failures.
  16. Invest in a good mascara, foundation and face cream.
  17. Adopt a pet versus “buying” one or getting one from a breeder.  There thousands of animals that are homeless.
  18. Say yes today because tomorrow is never promised.
  19. You know that whole thing about starting to save early? I hate to say it, but it’s true. Thank goodness for early 401k options at work.
  20. Performing acts of kindness boosts your mood and ultimately makes you more happy.
  21. Viewing the world through the eyes of a child brings kindness and creativity into the soul.
  22. I have yet to see a perfect relationship or marriage. Every relationship has their secret battles and comparing     your relationship to others is a detriment
  23. 22. Gossip. It’s easy to fall into and it can be just as easy to kindly walk away.
  24. It’s ok to not belong to any one group. The more you try, the more disappointed you will be. Welcome to the land  of the misfits!
  25. If someone you love is struggling with a hardship, addiction, or mental illness, approach them with love and compassion. Disappointment and anger are imminent so do your best to control the bad energy.
  26. God always provides.
  27. No one thinks about you more than yourself.
  28. Gratefulness brings peace and happiness to life.
  29. Every hard-working girl needs to buy an expensive pair of jeans and handbag.
  30. Moms really do love to talk about their kids.  I’m one of them.
  31. Say one thing you are grateful for, everyday. The car, house, family and clothes on your back are things we take for granted.
  32. You really can marry your best friend.
  33. Being diagnosed with a disease or illness will make some people around you uncomfortable. Many will pull back and disappear. That’s OK.
  34. You can never kiss, hug or cuddle with your kids enough.
  35. Being open to experiences, people and philosophies allows you to grow mentally and emotionally. It makes you someone who people actually want to be around.

 

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            Viewing the world through the eyes of a child brings kindness and creativity into the soul (Lesson #21)

April 28, 2017
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